If They Love You


Man walking at sunset


Love is more black and white than we like to tell ourselves. Don’t allow anyone to keep you trapped in the “promise” of the gray area. The bottom line is: If they love you, TRULY love you, they’ll do whatever it takes to be with you. There won’t be excuses or doubts or fears or hesitation. Love is ACTION. Everything else is just words.
~Mandy Hale – The Single Woman

This is what I have to keep reminding myself.  No, we cannot choose who we fall in love with.  But we can choose to keep going back to those that break us down with empty words and unfulfilled promises OR we can love ourselves enough to realize we don’t need anyone to be happy.  We think we cannot live without them, but we can.  We just have to accept what we can’t change.

P keeps calling me, at home and at work and on my cell.  I have blocked him as much as I can, but at work I just don’t answer private calls.  He says he’s getting separated.  I will believe that when I see it lol.  But even so, it still has nothing to do with me.

As for me, I am going to continue to go where the love is.

36 thoughts on “If They Love You

  1. mydeardiary9 says:

    The bottom line is: If they love you, TRULY love you, they’ll do whatever it takes to be with you.

    Love the quote. But if he doesn’t do you let go? Even though I want to let go, like Jarrod C said, I keep finding myself thinking and wanting him to come back and give it a second shot at least one more time..would he ever realise..ahh, i’m still torn between wanting to let go and hoping to stay and wait! Hate myself for putting myself in this state, when I’ve always been the strong woman..

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  2. mullguy says:

    I read somewhere that women expect that if two people love each other they will be together but that men will always also look at how the relationship would affect the rest of their lives. I think this is true and even more true as we get older so I think there is room for some gray. However in your case there is no gray. P is married and is a cheater. You don’t want to be with a cheater.

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    • emmagc75 says:

      That is pretty much exactly my thinking and his! Very true. He hasn’t had sex with his frigid narcissist in 3 years lol. He stayed without sex n love for 15 years thinking she would change n things would get better. Yes he cheated but so did I mull.


      • mullguy says:

        Sounds like a marriage he has stayed in way too long. You cheated if you are also married. If not it is a lot more gray. So that I don’t sound too high and mighty I should disclose that I have dated married women since my divorce and this is even after having a marriage that ended when my ex wife had an affair. I justified it in a lot of ways. I even came up with marriage categories ranging from very married to only a little married. Bottom line was that I never felt comfortable. I don’t do things anymore that make me uncomfortable.

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        • emmagc75 says:

          Oh he totally should’ve gotten out years ago. But they are both gorgeous n everyone thought they had a perfect marriage! She’s a narcissist and is a master at faking. He’s actually addicted to the narcissistic cycle of abuse. He’s getting help for him n his kids n I hope he breaks free. Just not for me.
          Yes I did cheat after living in sexless marriage for 3 years n telling H I would. I’m glad you learned. So have I. Affairs never work!


  3. Jarrod C says:

    Men have a tendency to push away but then after a little while, try to pull people back in. I think it is because we tend to have to work through our thoughts to determine what our emotions are.

    I wish you luck.


  4. angelmorals says:

    What will you do if he is telling you the truth? I understand you love your husband and your family but what will you do. I admire you so much cause you can stick to your guns and one of the strongest to be able to let go of the man you love but just wondering? 🙂

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  5. LilyReborn says:

    Love the quote by Mandy Hale. Can’t listen to the music, but I’m with you, friend. Going where the love is today, and everyday. Today,
    That love love is with my girls 😊

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