Really? WTF?

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As most of you have realized I have been posting a lot of articles about narcissism and codependency.  Yes, it originally started as a way for me to understand and process what P has dealt with for all these years.  Why he or anyone would stay unhappy and unloved year after year?  How could someone be okay and actually comfortable being ignored, manipulated, laughed at and basically treated not good enough for years? And to have chosen to have gone back to that lonely, tough situation willingly is something that I will never ever be able to comprehend.

Learning about the science behind traumatic bonding, addiction to the cycle of abuse and how the brain works has been extremely healing for me.  More than that, it’s fascinating to me that this type of abuse can obviously be so subtle that the victim does not even realize that it’s happening.  They know something is wrong or off with the person and their behavior but they don’t know what it is.

I have begun learning about personality disorders, narcissism, codependency, and other topics.  I do spend time scouring the internet.  I’ve read tons of articles and information that I think is interesting and educational yet will resonate with a lot of us.  Sometimes I weave in personal info, sometimes not.  I ALWAYS say who the article was written by and usually post a link to their website at the end.

I am truly happy to know that my blog is read and that I can be of some small help to those that have been abused or a victim.  My blog is very diverse in content and posts.  It is not just about any ONE topic.  It’s usually based on what I am feeling, dealing with or interested in.  There’s posts on depression, marriage, family, affairs, love, laughter, heartbreak, letting go and moving on, narcissism, quotes, humor, you name it.

In the last few days, something has happened 3 times now. Let me say, there are a bunch of people also interested in the same topic and spreading info about personality disorders.  They have been abused or know someone who has. They are supportive, generous and kind.  So I am quite used to people reblogging something I post.  I find it flattering and makes me smile. Like most of us, I enjoy when people relate to me, my blog, my life or my posts. I consider each mention a sweet n thoughtful gesture.

But now a few people (whose blogs I follow, enjoy and they follow mine)  just happen to post the exact same article I have within hours of my post!!! They correctly put the author’s name giving them credit, but then act like they just found it themselves a few hours after I post the same EXACT article?  Yeah right. The first time, I actually laughed and chalked it up to a coincidence. Great minds thinking alike and all. But now? I know it isn’t a coincidence and it’s just not very nice.

Obviously I am not as upset as I would be if someone posted my original content as their own. But it still bothers me that this keeps happening. This time the blogger posted it with a big picture of the author.  Does she think that I’ve done something wrong by posting the article in the first place and not including a huge photo of the very pretty author??  Oh and there was NO comment option, just like and reblog!!  Seriously WTF?!?!?!?

This makes me a little sad and confused. I get not wanting to reblog cause it doesn’t give whole post and it can be a pain, especially if you have other stuff you want to say or include. That’s totally fine n cool.

Since this has obviously gone from a coincidence to a complete disregard for where they first READ the article.  It’s absolutely legal but is it really okay?  No I didn’t write these articles (I am not a social worker or a psychologist), but I did go out of my way to find them, choose them and post them so people might read them.

The least someone can do if they want to repost the SAME EXACT ARTICLE hours later is either reblog, at least say this article was written by John Smith and found on Emma’s blog, or feel free to find your own articles to post.  

I really don’t think I’m wrong to feel upset.   But I am totally open to any and all opinions. Just be kind 🙂

90 thoughts on “Really? WTF?”

  4. sonofabeach96 says:
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    Some people have no original ideas at all. Or, at least they don’t know how to tap into it. I think we’ve all had a colleague or someone you had to do a group project with in school that pulls that stunt. Guess they need the ego boost. Kinda slimy and certainly never appreciated. “Entitled narcissists, please raise your hand! You may be excused.”

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  5. Sabiscuit says:
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    Ems, I have been there, actually. I had someone try to reverse engineer some of my work and pawn it off on readers on a blog. Among other noodley little incidents not fraud but fraud. I am happy you got on top of this and called them out. It’s not illegal but it is just not nice. Most people don’t understand what it is like until it happens to them. You’ve been more than helpful with this information. It is just awful that someone chose to do that.

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  6. emmagc75 says:
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    Thank you so much for knowing how to make me feel understood n supported. I appreciate it and you. And the don’t tell someone how to feel part? Yeah that’s why you’re still married lol! Hugs my dear friend xo

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  8. bipolarsojourner says:
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    remember back to school and you’d see someone cheating? if you spent hours studying the night before, you were likely pretty upset. you had spent all that time studying and here was someone steeling answers. if so, you likely felt the situation to be unfair.

    I learned from inside out (if you haven’t seen it, go! you will find it surprising that a “kids” movie can discuss the topic of emotions so well.) and a post movie discussion with a friend, every emotion has a purpose. I believe when we deny that emotion’s purpose we set up ourselves for further struggles since the purpose goes unfulfilled.

    think back to the recent riots; you pick which one. most humans felt some anger over the situation. why? because of some sense of injustice on one side or the other.

    Emmaacg75, you fill angry and rightfully so. you “deserve” that anger since you felt wronged by the situation. additionally, you have fulfilled the purpose of the anger, fairness and justice for you and the work you have done.👍 i truly honor you for that, and offer you an atta-girl! 👏👏👏👏👏

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    • emmagc75 says:
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      Wow! I agree that we shouldn’t deny or supress our feelings. They do serve a purpose. I didn’t wallow in them. Just blogged and let go. Thanks for the insight n yes I am taking my nieces n nephews to see it this weekend.

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  10. Tessa says:
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    Having someone who obviously found the same article and posted it on could be coincidence once, but several times no. A reblog would have been fine, it would identify where it was found, that, I think would be the correct etiquette, but to just post the exact same article is just a little weird especially if it keeps happening. I am sorry this happened to you. There is a lot of personal stuff out there being stolen as well. I see lots of blogs that only reblog. No personal posts at all. They are basically running a blog on other’s work.

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    • emmagc75 says:
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      Thanks Tessa for getting it. I reblog a few times a week myself. The articles about narcissism are mostly written by professionals. I’m not taking credit for them. Just acknowledge where u found it. Or even say oops sorry my bad n that’s fine.

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  11. yann bastiaans says:
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    Hi Emma. I totally understand how you feel, but I’m not sure if your feeling is proportionate with the facts. Disregarding any opinion (about wether you are right or wrong), I think it is not worth the energy of getting (a little) upset by this. You worked hard to find these articles, they look nice on your blog and suit your opinions, so maybe you could find some pride in the fact that others are following your lead and are confirming your good taste in choosing those articles for re-blogging. You lead the pack girl! 😊 Get some pride in that and get rid of those negative feelings about things you can’t change. Keep posting on your fantastic blog!! Thanks, yann.

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    • bipolarsojourner says:
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      um. don’t tell someone how to feel. it will likely not end up pretty. you may have reacted differently, still that does not make the other person’s reaction wrong. it’s their emotion; let them express it as they do. it’s comes down to a difference of opinion; you would take pride in someone “lifting” you work and effort where emma wants credit for her work and effort. these are her beliefs and the feelings that come from them. by call them disproportionate, you’re invalidating her emotion. avoid doing that; you’ll have a better life

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        • bipolarsojourner says:
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          yann,

          i realize your statement came from a place of love and believe it or not, so did mine. you. have just hit a hot button of mine, invalidation, especially when comes to emotions. invalidating emotions, such as, “I’m not sure if your feeling is proportionate with the facts,” can be potentially damaging. feelings just are; they are neither right nor wrong. yet, when someone feelings are invalidated, they can easily hear that there emotion is wrong. this can further lead to the person questioning all of their emotions. Speaking from personal experience, that’s a horrible place to be. I simply request, that for the millions if not billions of the people struggling with accepting the own emotions, that you be aware what invalidation can do.

          don’t take this as an person attack but as someone’s story and and what their journey has taught them, and how that might help you. do with it as you may.

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          • yann bastiaans says:
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            I totally understand your explanation, still I do not understand your reaction. As far as I know (as a non-native English speaker) I did not ‘invalidate’ her emotions.. I am just not sure if her feelings are proportionate to the facts. That does not invalidate her feelings, that does not tell her her feelings are wrong or right, it just says what it says: I don’t know. If you took the time and energy to read further my main message was not to let those feelings spoil her day, but to try to concentrate on the positieve fact that she apparently is an example for others who copy the posts she found by hard work. And that this shows she has good taste (or makes right choices) otherwise she wouldn’t be copied. So I’m sorry, I have a hard time placing your comment in perspective because I think you are beside the point. But with saying this I do not wish to harm your feelings, nor was it my goal with my first post. My apologies if you took it the wrong way, that was not my intention at all, nor did I wish to criticize her feelings.

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    • emmagc75 says:
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      Thanks for the encouragement Yann! I think it’s quite healthy to discuss what bothers us. Now if I was very upset, yes that would definitely be a bit dramatic lol. Actually I was able to get rid of the negative feelings as soon as I got them out. Be well xo

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  12. DoesItEvenMatterWhoIAm? says:
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    Totally fucking wrong. People are dicks. Chalk it up to them not having the creativity to come up with their own material so they have to rip you off. Or you can go with the old standby of, “Imitation is the highest form of flattery.” You know what I did to a girl who kept copying EVERYTHING about me when I was 20? I told her I wanted to get a Barcode tattooed on my ass. Guess what she did? She got a Barcode tattooed on her ass. I am still laughing about that one! Don’t get mad, get even. Post a link to an “article” that leads straight to a porn site or something! Xoxoxoxo Don’t let them get under your skin babe!

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