Great article!
Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr. They are the codependents who keep on giving. It is also very often the case that these people are either in or have been in a relationship with someone who has narcissist tendencies. In fact there are studies that suggest that they might even seek out such types.
There is a dance in codependency that involves the intimate relationship between codependents and narcissistic types. Codependents lack a healthy relationship with self. They are prone to put others first before their own needs. This is unhealthy.
Narcissists also have an unhealthy relationship with self. They put themselves above all else. They use others…
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Boy did my mom put her needs before anyone elses, including her only child’s. still tries go do it to me now. I’ve stopped letting her. And I put my wife’s and my kids needs WAY before mine, but not out of codependency, I don’t think. I do it out of love and and sense of responsibility to them. Am I in denial still? Have I been conditioned to give? Am I still codependent in a way? I don’t really know.
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If u were in denial, you wouldn’t call her a narcissist and you would continue letting her manipulate you n your family. There’s nothing wrong with giving. It’s when u consistently do it to your own detriment that it becomes an issue. And kids don’t count lol. They have to come first 95% of the time. My parents always got a babysitter once a month to go to a dinner dance or on a date. It kept their marriage strong n made them happy better parents.
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Thank you. You’ve got me wondering and thinking lately. Yeah, those date nights are essential. You rock! And, by the way, aren’t you supposed to be at the lake?
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Got u thinking? Gosh how dare I? Lol Not leaving for lake til Tues. And thanks 🙂
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Stop it! Makes my head hurt!!! May you feel the warm sun and the cool water, toast every sunset, and find some peace and relaxation next week. Enjoy!
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Thanks! I have to get out the suitcases tomorrow.
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