Love is Stronger than Death

 

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I cannot believe I am writing this a week after she got sick. My Mother-in-law passed away last night. All 4 of her children had been there throughout the day n night. Her daughter, my sis-in-law, was with her. And my husband, who we lovingly joke is horrible with hospitals, had just left her bedside not 5 minutes before she took her last breath.

I am so proud of him. He is extremely uncomfortable and visibly shaken in hospitals but he stayed alone with her Friday and Saturday night in the hospital. And has been there all day into the night since.

He called me around 6:30pm. I had gone home after work, exhausted physically and emotionally. He said he was tired n might leave. I told him to stay with her, his brothers, sister and his uncle. I said please trust me, I have been here before. You need to be there. He said you’re right, I will stay a few more hours. He called me from outside the elevator because no cell reception in parking garage. It was 11:12 and he had just left her and his sister. The others had left about an hour before. She died at 11:16 pm. Like his sister said, she knew her son and waited until he had gone.  That was her, thoughtful and kind.

She is at peace and she has been reunited with her husband of 51 years.

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95 thoughts on “Love is Stronger than Death

  1. New Journey says:

    My condolences to you and your family….sorry for your husbands hearbreak, and mothers never stop thinking about there children, no matter what state we’re in, and I have to agree, she knew, and waited until he stepped away….what a wonderful gift she gave to him…..your all in my thoughts…..hugs…kathy

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  2. Melanie (DoesItEvenMatterWhoIReallyAm?) says:

    Em! God I’m so sorry baby! I’m just f*cking horrified about this…. you know how to get in touch. I’m sorry. So very sorry. My heart is broken for you and yours 💔
    I love you and I hope that you can find peace in this madness. I’m here for you babe… M

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  3. blooming shadow says:

    Oh, Emma, I’m so very sorry for your loss. What a touching last story about your MIL’s love, too. She knew and loved her family, her son, so much she hugged them one last time by waiting. 11:12 to 11:16? Not coincidence. Hugs to you. Your family’s in my prayers.

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    • emmagc75 says:

      Thank you so much! I’m exhausted physically, mentally and emotionally but not depressed thankfully. Sad and grieving the loss but as you know better than most, it’s different and that’s a good thing. How are you feeling? Hugs xo.

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      • bipolarsojourner says:

        Sunday, i went to a game day with two other people from one of my support groups. we laughed (a lot!!!), we commiserated, confided, spoke of concerns, connected and laughed (a lot!!!). the most common phrase spoke that day was, “i’m having a fun time,” not by one but all. fh to say, i left knowing i had a really good time. i thought if i could laugh like that on a regular bases, it would be a lot harder to feel depressed. i held on to that feeling…until 10:30. about that time, I seemingly crashed back down to reality, feeling a little worse than when game day started.

        maybe that’s what i perceived. after having such a wonderful time, a wanted to ride that wave as long as I could. when it petered out, I felt disappointment for the loss. compounded with my fragile state of mind, caused me to sink a little deeper.

        so, i am where i am, wondering. i know where my life was before this cycle, I knows my lows, they sucked, and i know where i am now. the gap between now and as where i was before the cycle is quite sizable, and i find myself saying, “is this as good as it gets?”

        i sure hope not.…

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  4. Tessa says:

    Sorry for your loss. God bless your family.

    We were all there when my mom took her last breath. The nurse warned us she was about to go and so many people miss it. We stayed and not much longer she passed. Hard to watch the last breath, but also something soothing about being there at the end.

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    • emmagc75 says:

      Thanks Tessa! Her daughter was with her n she went peacefully. But my Dad n I were there when my Mom passed. It definitely helped me. She looked so happy n beautiful, any doubts I had about an afterlife were forever gone. She smiled like she was at the party of the century! If I was alone I would’ve thought I hallucinated it lol. Hugs xo.

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  5. Louise Fowler says:

    I am thinking of you dear Emma. Sweetheart please rest so your body has time to absorb the shock. Drink lots of water it will help your energy continue to flow and protect the body. I am here for you. I am so sorry, HUGS
    Louise

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  6. Anna says:

    It’s kind of a comfort that love is stronger than death. True love reaches over time and space. In soul you will meet her again thanks to your strong love. That’s sounds silly, but I get hugs and love from my parts of my family that passed a long time ago. Take care 🙂

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  7. sonofabeach96 says:

    I’m so sorry, Em. My thoughts are with you and your family. Never easy, obviously. But, like you said, she’s reunited with her love. I hope I’m lucky enough to have and be there for my wife that many years. A life well lived, and I’m sure she knew how much all of you loved her. Be well, my friend. Open invite for venting here, if ya need it. 😔

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  8. acquiescent72 says:

    I am chilled reading this, but I take comfort in knowing that there are people in the world that can rise above themselves for others.

    I am sorry for your family’s loss.

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