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This REALLY helped me today! Lately, I have been happy and content. I do not feel like there anything lacking in my life. And I am very grateful about that.
But it’s always there in the back of my mind. It is a big pink elephant in the room. Sex is important and I miss it. I miss passion, intimacy and everything that goes with it. Only 1 more month and although I am scared and terrified, I will start to make plans to separate. I cannot imagine my life without him but I also cannot remain in a sexless marriage any longer and I have no other choice.
It still seems kind of unreal to me that after 10 years, it’s come to this. I definitely don’t think he believes that I will, which is absolutely crazy. I don’t know what’s going through his head, I just know that as much as I love him, I cannot sacrifice that part of myself any longer than I already have. It’s that tragic and that simple all at the same time.
Here’s to 2016 and going where the love and great sex is!!!
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I appreciate your blog because of the honesty here. Sorry you’re going through so much pain though.
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Thank you. Yes brutal honesty is my specialty lol. I’m good today n most days. How are u?
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I’m fine, working, going home and working some more. Peace.
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Wow, you know what they say about all work n no play right? Lol Be well!
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How sad, but I understand your decision, I couldn’t either. Hang in there you will be just fine, you are strong.
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Thanks, I’m just torn.
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Of course you are, huge decision dear Emma but you must think of yourself sometimes.
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I know. Thanks n big hugs xo!
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“True happiness n great sex” is a brilliant toast ! Cheers, lady 🍻 Can’t imagine the loneliness I’d feel in a sexless marriage and definitely don’t take it for granted that the hubs and I have an evenly matched (high) libido. And regardless of how amazing your relationship is with your husband, without regular loving being part of it, I would think a “soul-level” closeness is being forfeited? Like sonofabeach96, I hope your hubs realizes you’re serious and starts getting to the root of his issue. Hang in there.
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Thanks bloom! I’m really glad you don’t take it for granted and yes I hope he does too before it’s just too late. Hugs to u xo!
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I’m a huge lover of quotes…I have them everywhere! Just started following you and it looks like u have a lot going on….I’m looking forward to reading your blog….
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Thanks Lisa! I think you will see, I love quotes too lol!
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I too hope you find all of what you want and need. I love your strong will to find what you want. Courageous!!!!
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Thank you! I hope so too lol. Hugs xo!
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I’m so sorry Em, that its not improved and come to this. Maybe a trial separation will jar him into action? Hope he finally comes around…no pun intended. 😊
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Thanks son! He made a dr’s appt but unless he’s completely honest with dr, it won’t matter ya know?
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I think if he really loves and cares about you he will 🙂
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I hope so.
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I hate to hear this from ya. Fingers crossed that it works itself out. 😕
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Thank you! Not over til it’s over right?
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Never say never…’til the fat lady sings…or til you say it is. Hope it goes better.
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I agree n thanks son!
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Just read your last post. Hmmm. Hope he does what he can to fix this.
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Thanks son!
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I was going to suggest the same. Maybe some time apart will allow each to come to the conclusion they need for the marriage.
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Maybe it can.
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I think it gives both of you a scenario where there is change and forces you to perform an evaluation. Without any change, there really isn’t a need to consider differences. Give it some thought.
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How does that work? Do I ever get to have sex? Lol
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There is no set way. When my ex-wife and I were separated, we both dated. It was a mistake. I wasn’t emotionally ready. I thought I was but I wasn’t. Our situation was different though as we knew we were over and just waiting to finish the divorce. I would recommend not dating though at this point.
I can’t also tell you what the outcome of it will be should you and hubby decide to go that route. But as I mentioned in another comment, I think sometimes we need to take a step back before we can be ready to take steps forward.
I know you will do the right thing for you. Only you can make that decision.
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But I need sex lol!!!!
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That may be. Sometimes it helps, to gain some perspective.
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It might be necessary and it’s an option I’m considering.
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Yes, I’ve often found we need to take a step back from a situation before we can take steps forward.
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I never thought of it like that Jarrod. It makes sense. Thnx!
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Lovely words Emma, but for me ‘Be content with what you have’ is a tricky one
(Shame we both don’t live in the same country cause I’m looking for, err ……….. lol any sex will do!)
Thinking of you 🙂 x
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I know ur sense of humor 😉
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Btw do you believe in strange coincidences? Well remember I was talking about Julie in my confusing email (come to think of it that’s most!) well she commented that very night on my ‘100 post’. Incredible after 6 months.
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No ur right it was extra confusing lol.
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Hi Emma 🙂 I never mean to trivialise and I (we on WP) understand you are a little terrified sometimes unhappy, I guess I’m in no place to give advise but wish you well for 2016, ok if pushed for an opinion I’d say you have to follow your heart’s desire, I know that phrase has been repeated many time’s, but in my humble opinion it’s true. When I finally went to see Julie I had a strong feeling she’d say ‘good friends’ but I still went because you just don’t know what life has for you round the corner. I know I’m a clumsy commenter sometimes but I’m convinced following your heart and femeninie intuition is best 🙂 x
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Thanks Andrew! My heart’s desire? I think it’s to have love, laughter and great sex! Lol
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Oh Andrew ur funny! I don’t think we’re each other’s type though 🙂
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Btw I was pleased you enjoyed my 3 songs from the 80’s! People can say what they want but there was great music back then AND Cara will like them cause she was a ‘Duranee’ …………… don’t ask
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What the heck are u talking about?!? Labia? Geez!!
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That was a weird thread to say the least.
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Lol yup
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Too loved by people? Who am I Mother Theresa? Lol Ur funny!! Hope ur well. Hugs!
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Lol ………….. and yes 🙂 I’m well x
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I’m glad 😉
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To true happiness in 2016 – here here.
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To true happiness n great sex in 2016! Lol Thanks Jay 🙂
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I’m so with you. I know people in sexless marriages and relationships. But to me that’s so out of balance and they aren’t happy either. I want it all and I know it’s possible. I don’t blame you at all. Hopefully you will stay close with him. 😊
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Yes I can’t truly be happy in a relationship without physical intimacy. It sucks. Thnx!
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