“Life is short. Stop worrying so much. Have fun. Be grateful. Be yourself. Don’t allow others to bring you down. Life is a one time offer. Live to your fullest.” ~ Karen Salmansohn ~

This is one of the best recipes for a wonderful life!!!

“Life is short. Stop worrying so much. Have fun. Be grateful. Be yourself. Don’t allow others to bring you down. Life is a one time offer. Live to your fullest.”
~ Karen Salmansohn ~



we must accept what is and release all that will never be

Source: Truth

I’m a little out of sorts today. Trying to release all that will never be. I’m having a really good week but there’s this mean, petty and just plain nasty co-worker who’s behavior is escalating.

Everyone else I work with is so very wonderful, so usually I just ignore her. I am definitely grateful to have such a special, supportive n kind work family. We take care of one another. Like one of the school psychologists I worked with retired last year and he still came to my Mother-in-law’s wake to show his support. And last month a few of them chipped in $100 and completely surprised me when I was getting my hair done! Just to cheer me up because the last few months have been difficult. In today’s world, it’s rare to find such a positive and happy work environment.

I accept what is and am letting go of what will never be. I know there’s so many things in life to be grateful for and to look forward to. I choose to focus on all that I do have. That’s more than most. I’m very lucky 🙂

Taking Chances & Change




I agree that we’re never totally prepared and ready for changing our lives. Sometimes you just have to close your eyes, take a deep breath and jump!!
I think we just have to have faith in ourselves and trust that we will get where we are meant to be. I don’t want to have any regrets. So I am glad that I’ve loved and been loved. Right now I don’t know where or who I will end up with, but I am determined to go where the love and great sex is!

Holding On vs. Letting Go

I let him go

I have never been a woman that takes long to get over relationships. It shocks me that it has taken 8 months to finally let go of P and be at peace with shutting that door for good.  I just kept holding on because I was so certain he was my future. That he could be strong enough to break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse.  That he would figure it out before it was too late.  He wasn’t and he didn’t.  And that’s okay because it doesn’t mean we didn’t love one another very much.  It just means he’s not ready to leave his prison of loneliness and dysfunction. I am still angry sometimes but I guess I will take anger over sadness lol.

why we hold on

This is so friggin true!! Do you want to know why I held on so tightly for so long and refused to let go?  Because most of the time it was amazing. Our love was special in a way I had never known. I have never felt that way about anyone before in my whole life.  Believe me, he wasn’t perfect at all lol! That man has more issues and baggage than an airport terminal. He was just perfect for me and I thought that I was perfect for him.  We used to marvel at how his crazy fit my crazy.  But he’s so afraid of making changes or mistakes. A lot of that is his generalized anxiety disorder.  And that’s okay because it’s his choice.  My choice is to move on without him in my life anymore.

I gave him 2 years and that was plenty of time to get his shit together.  Like DaVinci said “A life without love is no life at all.” He just thinks he’s wasted 8 years, what’s a few more months?

Well a few months was the difference between my holding on and my letting go.  We all make choices.  He’s made his to stay unhappy and unloved and I’ve made mine to cut him out of my life completely and irrevocably.  I think he really just thought I would happily wait til he was finally ready. Obviously I guess he never truly understood me.  Patience has always been a struggle for me and I admit that.  I know how short life is and I don’t intend to waste mine pining for anyone!


This quote makes me laugh because it was exactly how I felt those first few days.  It’s still hard to look back and realize just how much pain I was in.  Thankfully, I am living, finally moving on and I am happy.  I had to realize that I don’t actually NEED anyone to live, even P. I do believe there was a purpose to all of this. Unlike P, I learn from my mistakes and pain so that I don’t repeat them.  I will make new ones 😉

Go where the love and great sex is my friends!